Sex isn’t supposed to be perfect, but it does get better when you stretch your sexual boundaries (to a certain point).
It’s perfectly acceptable to not feel totally comfortable with some of the words and actions at first, but just go with it. Just the act of you forcing the arms back with handcuffs is a sign that this is where they’re going to stay put for a while, especially when said in a stern voice. “Once you have both hands restrained above their head, tell them not to move. How you do it: “Find a spot, like a towel rod or a hook against the wall, where you can handcuff your partner’s arms while standing up,” Morse says. It opens your hip flexor muscles and flexes your glutes for a fabulous and very arousing stretch, which brings blood flow to the pelvis,” she says. Why it feels so good: “This position can bend you open so that there is great access to the mons pubis, labia and clitoris. Attach the handcuffs around your wrists so that they sit behind the ankles,” says licensed marriage and family therapist and clinical sexologist Kat Van Kirk. Bend your legs up and reach back for your feet. How you do it: “Lie down with your belly to the floor or bed. “‘Queening’ is a very good tease position, where the top person almost lowers herself onto the bottom person but doesn’t quite make contact… ’till their partner begs!” Hands Behind Ankles Why it feels so good: “One thing the Fifty Shades of Grey reader doesn’t really get is a positive look at a woman on top,” she says. This could also be modified to involve woman-on-top intercourse but with the bottom cuffed,” Queen says. ‘Queening’ is also known as ‘sitting on his face,’ so this is an oral sex position where the woman gets lovely licks while the man’s wrists are bound above his head she just has to take care not to put her weight on his arms when settling in to be pleasured. How you do it: “For this position, the submissive partner is on the bottom. The ‘top’ gets the delicious feeling of power and that the ‘bottom’ is there for the taking - quite literally.” If someone likes bondage, the immobility and ravishment are generally part of its delight.
“This allows those elements to remain very important and adds a touch of power play: Hands over head and bound exposes the breasts and gives her more of a feeling of being ravished. Why it feels so good: “Anyone who already loves missionary position loves it because of the full-body contact and face-to-face intimacy,” she says. The dominant person is on top, probably talking dirty.” “You can up the ante with a second pair of cuffs on the ankles if the bed has legs to loop the cuff’s chain or a length of rope to. How you do it: “The person on the receiving end lies on her back, hands overhead and cuffed,” says Carol Queen, Ph.D., staff sexologist at Good Vibrations.